wedding

traditions

Wedding Traditions for the Ceremony & Reception

Ceremony Music Provided By Your DJ…

More and more, couples are choosing to have their DJ service also provide their ceremony music. If your ceremony and reception are at the same location then we can provide this service to you within the time frame you book the service for. We have PA & microphone systems specifically designed for this purpose.
If you are interested in this service, but your ceremony is at a different location, we can still provide this service to you. See our Ceremony Packages page for more details.

View our awesome wedding ceremony & music guide to learn everything you ever wanted to know about the order and events for the ceremony, music selection, and more. For wedding traditions at the RECEPTION, continue reading…

When The Bride And Groom Enter The Reception…

Traditionally, the DJ would announce you in by your full, married name with your entire wedding party following immediately behind you. Today, in most cases, The Bride and Groom choose to have the entire wedding party introduced into the reception. Within our “On-Line Event Planning Form” we have a dedicated area for these introductions and the appropriate line-up order. Make your wedding party aware that they should not filter into the reception prior to you arriving because it makes it difficult to find and reorganize them for your grand entrance. Your Elite Pro DJ will then announce each wedding party-couple individually into your reception with the Bride and Groom being introduced last. If you would like, you can also include Ushers, Flower Girls, Ring Bearer, Junior Bridesmaids, and Parents into the introductions. view most requested songs (link opens in a new window)

The Cutting Of The Cake…

You can cut your cake before or after dinner but you should check with your banquet facility and/or caterer about the best timing for this accordingly. If you plan to serve your cake for desert then it is usually best to cut it prior to dinner, as some cakes take quite a while to slice and prepare. If you are planning to have your cake wrapped for your guests to take home, then it does not matter whether you cut it before or after dinner. Either way, you should check with your banquet captain or caterer first before deciding. view most requested songs (link opens in a new window)

The Toast…

It is etiquette for the toast to be proposed before dinner. It is a good idea to get your champagne ready and poured about 5 minutes prior to dinner being served. Your Elite Pro DJ will quiet the crowd and then formally introduce The Best Man for his toast. It is not uncommon for The Maid/Matron of Honor to also propose a toast. In some cases, The Bride and/or Groom’s parents may also like to propose a toast. It is etiquette for The Best Man to be first, followed by The Maid/Matron of Honor, and then anyone else. If you are going to have a prayer before dinner this should always be last after any and all toasts.

The Bridal/First Dance…

The Bridal/First Dance should be done approximately 5-10 minutes after dinner has been completed. Traditionally, you would dance to the song of your choice and shortly thereafter, (approximately 1-2 minutes) your wedding party would join you to conclude your dance. More often today, Bride’s and Groom’s have been choosing to dance to their entire bridal song by themselves, and have a second song played for the wedding party. In this case, The Wedding Party Dance will immediately follow The Bridal Dance and includes the Bride, Groom and their entire wedding party. The parents, ushers, ring bearer, flower girls, etc., are typically not included in this dance. view most requested songs (link opens in a new window)

The Father/Daughter Dance…

The Father/Daughter Dance is done immediately following The Wedding Party Dance. This is where The Bride dances with her father to the song of their choice. Traditionally, “Daddy’s Little Girl” had been the favorite, however; over the years other selections have become much more popular and rarely is this song used anymore. Occasionally, and only in the case of a deceased father, we have seen brides dance with their grandfather for this dance. We have seen some brides choose the song “Daddy’s Hands” by Holly Dunn, and have even seen it suggested on other DJ’s web sites. This song is in reference to a deceased father and should only be used in a fitting and appropriate circumstance. view most requested songs (link opens in a new window)

The Mother/Son Dance…

The Mother/Son Dance is not quite as commonly requested and is done after the Father/Daughter Dance. This is where The Groom dances with his mother to the song of their choice. Traditionally, this dance did not exist, however, about 15 years ago it started appearing as a requested specialty dance. In some cases, The Bride and Groom choose to combine The Father/Daughter Dance with The Mother/Son Dance and select an appropriate song. Another option would be to switch partners during The Parents Dance (if you have one) allowing The Groom to briefly dance with his mother. If you decide to have the Groom dance briefly with his mother during The Parents Dance, you should advise your photographer accordingly. view most requested songs (link opens in a new window)

The Parents Dance…

The Parents Dance is the last of the specialty dances to be done. This is where The Bride & Groom and their parents all dance together. Traditionally, “Sunrise Sunset” from “Fiddler On The Roof”, has been the favorite, however, over the years other songs have become much more popular. In the case of a divorced or deceased parent, The Bride and Groom usually choose not to do this dance.

The Throwing of The Bouquet And Garter…

The bouquet is thrown first to the single ladies. Second, the garter is removed from the leg of the bride, by the groom, and then thrown to the single gentlemen. Traditionally, the person who catches the bouquet, and the person who catches the garter, do the reverse, that is, the gentleman who catches the garter puts it on the leg of the lady who catches the bouquet. In our experience, we see this done less and less and, in some cases, the bride and groom elect to forego the garter removal altogether. As to when this should be done, there are 2 options; Some brides choose to do this immediately after the last special dance song so they can be done with all the formalities and then just enjoy their party. Also, this is the last of the formal pictures to be taken, so if you are on a tight time limit with your photographer, this might be a good option for you. In most cases, the bride & groom prefer to wait 30-45 minutes into the general dancing before doing the bouquet & garter. view most requested songs (link opens in a new window)

The Dollar Dance

This is usually done anywhere from 30-60 minutes after the general dancing has started. Your guests come up and dance with you and give you a dollar to do so. The only downfall of a dollar dance is that it can be very time consuming, especially at larger receptions. If you decide on doing a dollar dance, we highly recommend having an organized plan! Before the day of your wedding, talk with your Best Man and Maid/Matron of Honor and assign them to be your collectors; They will stand at the head of each line and collect the money for you. In addition, they need to keep the line moving, no more than 1 minute per person. If your guests dance with you any longer than this, you are liable to burn 30 or more minutes of your reception with the dollar dance. Dollar dances are still somewhat popular, and as long as you can keep it within a reasonable time frame, the guests generally like them! view most requested songs (link opens in a new window)

ELITE PRO Dj

Contact  us for Booking info

Call Us:

(636) 256-8322 (Monday through Friday from 9-5 CST).

Serving St. Louis with premium wedding DJ services since 1978